One of my clients, who wasn’t willing to accept that it was how she was thinking about things that was the biggest player in the game, shouted at me in frustration “it just Snake Oil that you’re selling. You’re saying that I just need to realise that it’s my thoughts on what is happening that […]
Change without the associated midlife crisis
I’ve always been resilient when it comes to change. I’ve mixed it up all of my life. At the age of 16, I craved independence and left home, only to go back 4 weeks later with my tail firmly between my legs. I was 19 before I had another go, and this time I made […]
Have you tried giving up yet?
As young teens, my friend Jackie and I hitchhiked back and forward from Glasgow to Grimsby all the time. I say Grimsby, but I really mean Cleethorpes, Cleethorpes by the sea. We loved it. There was sand, pubs and boys and what’s more, these boys thought the Scots to be exotic creatures and to be […]
We need a system upgrade.
Imagine taking a caveman and plucking him from his cave and dropping him right in the middle of the Edinburg festival, say at the closing concert. Stick him in front of the bandstand while the Scottish Chamber Orchestra pounds out the tunes and then fill his vision with cascading and shooting fireworks as they fill […]
Why we think the way we do
According to Sigmund Freud, our personality begins to form just after we are born, and the first part of our psyche to emerge is the Id. The Id is the very beginning of forming our individual personalities and is the part of our psyche that ensures our basic human needs are met. He described this […]
Quality of Thought not Quantity of Thought
I tell people that I take the lightest path toward my goals and by lightest, I mean the path of least resistance. They often misunderstand this philosophy believing it to be a lazy, and poorly defined approach because it lacks what they see as structure. My goals are very real and a clear vision of […]
Sing or dance like nobody is watching
I give Bilbo, our dog, a chew stick and he expresses unkept joy. He throws it in the air and pounces on it again and again. In his little doggy head, he has not a care in the world, and I can remember being that carefree and happy when I was a child, especially if […]
Why Coaching is catching on
Personal and career coaching used to be the sole privilege of executives and leaders of large organisations. Now you can’t throw a stone without hitting a life coach, and that is because more and more people are deciding to use them to get themselves unstuck. I love coaching! I love coaching because I love people! […]
Thinking V Feeling
I have been coaching two business partners lately and they wouldn’t mind me saying that they are different personalities in every way. I think, in a lot of ways, this is their strength as a pairing, because these dynamics provide checks and balances and diverse ways of looking at things, but as with all relationships, […]
Channel your inner Elsa and Let it Go
At some point or another, I find myself telling my clients that they are sealed units. Sure, there are a couple of ways in and a couple of ways out, but outside of that, absolutely everything is contained inside their bodies, and their thoughts only exist inside their heads. Take a minute or two to […]
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