Do you know what’s good about living your life in the here and now? True peace of mind, that’s what. If you can live like this, in the here and now, neither you nor the world that you live in will be strained. When you’re in this space, you get to live a life that is fulfilling and lighter, and one that has space in it to breathe.
You don’t really need me to tell you that your brain and body were not designed to absorb all of the stuff that they have to deal with today, right? We’ve all known this for some time, and yet stress and anxiety are at an all-time high, and are having a massive impact on individuals, business and society. We have children as young as five self-harming and developing eating disorders. Suicide attempts are on the rise amongst our young and some are not attempts, some sweet souls actually do leave this earth because they don’t know how to live in it.
There are a few factors at play here, and over the next 2 months my friend Libby and I are going to blog about what we think these driving factors are, and we are also going to try and explain the ways in which your body and mind can work in harmony to improve your quality of life.
The below is not our CV’s. It’s our way of showing you that we have a degree of authenticity to be talking about this stuff in the way we do, but there is a twist in this tale. You see we don’t believe that the biggest step you can take to get to this place of peace, comes from either of our disciplines, but they do go a long way in helping us understand and explain how we got to this point.
I am a behaviourist. I have spent my long career working with organisations and Leadership groups looking at: Individual behaviours, group dynamics, personality preferences, spectrum insights, ego states, dysfunctional organisations/departments/teams/relationships/individuals. I’m an accomplished business and personal coach, a certified mediator and a world class, award winning, trainer. I have worked with and advised Government bodies, the NHS, Police forces, Prisons, Charities and Global commercial organisations.
Libby is an emergency medicine doctor who has practiced both with the NHS, and across the world in some very dynamic circumstance. She is a published science fiction author with the second book in her trilogy close to completion. She is a TEDx talker and if you visit our – Advance: A Lighter Life’s – Facebook page, you can see a video of her talk in Glasgow last year. She is a scientist and her knowledge on what’s going on inside your head puts my ’not too shabby’ knowledge of the brain to shame. She is a musician, a creative and is working in the cutting-edge field of Virtual Reality.
Over the last few months we have been on a sort of Odyssey together. We have travelled Europe as we’ve researched our approach and on our travels, we have found a movement out there, a movement of people embracing this lighter life. We have named our new personal development programme ALighterLife in honour of this, and it launches in September.
We both believe if you can understand the human experience, understand the influence your state of mind has on your whole outlook on life, then you will tap back into the natural state. You know the natural state, you see it so brightly in our children, but then it seems to fade as they grow. Well good news, it never really faded! Our friend Kimberly Hare describes this as ‘a diamond that just got covered in horse shit.’ She has a way with words does Kim. No genuinely she does. Her book The HeArt of Thriving: Musings on the Human Experience, is her newly published work. It is currently receiving 5-star reviews, and I will be buying a copy for all of my coaching clients.
We want to work with parents and parents to be, to give them the tools to get their own well-being on track (put your own oxygen mask on first before helping others). If they role model and show their children this way to live, then they will raise them in a psychologically safe and sound environment. We want to work with individuals who are looking to move forward in their life with some sort of clarity and need the resilience to do so. We want to work with couples, families, friends and those facing relationship and work struggles. We want to work with creatives and people who need themselves and their teams to continue to be inspired and to grow in their art and creativity. We want to work with organisations who put their staff’s stress management and wellbeing at the top of their concerns.
We don’t want to work with anyone that is looking for a 5-step programme. Firstly, we don’t have one, and secondly, we believe that this would just be putting a bit more ‘horse shit’ on the diamond. Strangely enough, we don’t mind working with people looking for a quick fix, because with the right shift in your state and the insight this brings, that’s just what this is.
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