One of my clients, who wasn’t willing to accept that it was how she was thinking about things that was the biggest player in the game, shouted at me in frustration “it just Snake Oil that you’re selling. You’re saying that I just need to realise that it’s my thoughts on what is happening that […]
Category: The 3 Priciples
Have you tried giving up yet?
As young teens, my friend Jackie and I hitchhiked back and forward from Glasgow to Grimsby all the time. I say Grimsby, but I really mean Cleethorpes, Cleethorpes by the sea. We loved it. There was sand, pubs and boys and what’s more, these boys thought the Scots to be exotic creatures and to be […]
Why we think the way we do
According to Sigmund Freud, our personality begins to form just after we are born, and the first part of our psyche to emerge is the Id. The Id is the very beginning of forming our individual personalities and is the part of our psyche that ensures our basic human needs are met. He described this […]
Quality of Thought not Quantity of Thought
I tell people that I take the lightest path toward my goals and by lightest, I mean the path of least resistance. They often misunderstand this philosophy believing it to be a lazy, and poorly defined approach because it lacks what they see as structure. My goals are very real and a clear vision of […]
Sing or dance like nobody is watching
I give Bilbo, our dog, a chew stick and he expresses unkept joy. He throws it in the air and pounces on it again and again. In his little doggy head, he has not a care in the world, and I can remember being that carefree and happy when I was a child, especially if […]
Why Coaching is catching on
Personal and career coaching used to be the sole privilege of executives and leaders of large organisations. Now you can’t throw a stone without hitting a life coach, and that is because more and more people are deciding to use them to get themselves unstuck. I love coaching! I love coaching because I love people! […]
Channel your inner Elsa and Let it Go
At some point or another, I find myself telling my clients that they are sealed units. Sure, there are a couple of ways in and a couple of ways out, but outside of that, absolutely everything is contained inside their bodies, and their thoughts only exist inside their heads. Take a minute or two to […]
I promise to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth
Have you told a lie today? Statistically, you will have told two. So why do we lie? Well, it’s an evolutionary trait actually. Evolutionists believe that the reason we have such large brains is to help us navigate the complexity of our societies and social structures. The ability to tell a convincing lie is one […]
Building Resilience into Youth
To say that I am concerned about children and young adults’ ability to cope in this world would be a gross understatement. More and more I find myself working with 18 to 23-year-olds, and the complexity of their relationships with others and themselves is intense. Given this, I wasn’t surprised when I learned that self-harming, […]
A lighter way to live
Do you know what’s good about living your life in the here and now? True peace of mind, that’s what. If you can live like this, in the here and now, neither you nor the world that you live in will be strained. When you’re in this space, you get to live a life that […]
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